happynurses

Making assumptions

I have been having some challenges this week, and when I focus on the causes of them it is a lot to do with making assumptions.

I assume that certain things are being done, when they are not. I am assuming that everyone who is involved with happynurses is as passionate about it as I am, when they are not.

I am assuming that people have the same drives/ buying habits and standards that I do.

I assume that if people say they will do something then it will happen.

These are not true and I have had to look at what the outcome of these assumptions has been for me -frustration, amazement that others are not like me, and lack of movement in the business in the way that I want.

The solution has been to recognise this, and then to look at what it is I really want - and therefore how to get it. If you are not getting the results you want then you need to look for solutions.

The next step is to make it clear to everyone involved exactly what it is you want, and what you expect. be specific and clear (I haven't been clear enough) and get a written plan if appropriate.

This can work in business, relationships, work, social and other areas.

What are you assuming is true, happynurses?

What a difference a day makes!

Yesterday I was stuck, and feeling really impatient and at a bit of a loss.

I went to bed telling myself that it was just one day, and there was plenty of time to get the happynurses project planned and moved forward.

Hey presto! Today I did an hour or so admin, then went to have my hair done with the lovely Ben. I now have a shorter, sassy, asymmetric style modelled on Flavia from 'Strictly Come Dancing'!

I had a meeting with my wonderfully helpful VA, Kathy, then spoke to the  local radio and paper regarding my Nick Williams promotion. I had a long discussion with Alison, a Money Gym co-client and friend who is setting up several websites and blogs as well as raising two kids and doing 40 hours a week as a 'part-time' GP.

So, this evening I feel great! New hairdo! New attitude, and a lot of talking done......

What would pep you up, happynurses? Remember tomorrow is another day!

amazing women

Yesterday I spent the day with 200 other business women in a lovely hotel being entertained, taught and inspired by other female business owners.

I met some lovely women entrepreneurs, made 6 really useful new connections, found another client, and listened to stories of success. It made me realise that what I am doing, and the 'wobbles' I sometimes feel are all totally normal!

It is always great to hear from women who are further along the track than you are.

I especially enjoyed the talk from Sabrina the PR expert, and I now want her to co-ordinate all my PR - must call her later....

Who inspires and motivates you, happynurses?

New start

Here is my new house........

I have to have my dreams, y'know - and so do you!

I have now finished working on a 'proper' contract but will be going back to the unit to do extra shifts when I can fit it in, and they need me. So have I been lazing around this week celebrating my freedom? In a word, no!

Here is my list of to do/ already done

• I have had my fortnightly coaching session from Philly and set my two-week actions
• I went to the physio for a check up and discussed getting back to the gym
• Had my first meditation class which was veeeery nice. We all found it difficult to get going after the relaxation session at the end!
• Went to a women's business networking group and told more people about happynurses
• Talked to my tax adviser and am registering the company as a limited company.
• Approached the NMC because I need their permission to have 'nurse' in the business title
• Had a second hypnotherapy and counselling session. I am working on clearing out negative thought patterns which are hampering my creativity and calmness.
• Read two books - 'Businesses that have chosen to be great instead of big'  (inspiring), and 'How to Get Rich' (don't bother reading it!)
• I am working with some writers overseas who are transcribing the audio interviews I did with Nick Williams, writing my one page website, and formatting the first e-book.
• I am now off to do a workshop on how to run workshops, and am meeting at gloscol to talk about running some open courses.

...and it's only Thursday - wow!

Let me know what you have achieved this week.

Keep pushing forward, happynurses!

How to look good naked

I am really liking the programme How to look good naked on channel 4. I resisted watching it for a while as I didn't like the look of Gok Wan who presents (never make assumptions based on appearances!), but now I love it!

Why?

Well, I love seeing the women transform from frumpy, sad, nervous women to confident, sexy, happy ones!

The process is similar to the results of coaching. It often takes someone else to see things in you that you don't see in yourself.

Lots of people say to me 'You are so brave' about various courses, performances or activities that I have done or attended, but it has been a gradual process of getting involved, doing increasingly frightening things that scare me. I was very shy as a child and still feel sick and nervous when doing something new.

However - I don't let it stop me! The only way to develop confidence is to challenge yourself - be scared, take small risks, but as a friend said to me this week 'My God, it makes you feel alive!!'

It certainly does!

I have walked across hot coals, skydived, abseiled, travelled to Australia alone, performed 'stand-up comedy' in London and lots of other terrifying things!

Avoiding scary activities does not mean you are never scared. Lots of people are scared of fear itself - just get started, and get friends or a coach to help you. Make sure you fully live your life.

Do one scary thing this week, happynurses!